Have you ever tried to do something new, different or big? Like going back to school, starting a new career, getting out of a bad relationship, start your own business, or learn a new language? If so, what happened? Did you accomplish it? Hopefully, your answer is yes. But for those who answered no, at least for some of those goals, you’re not alone.
The big question is what kept you from going after or staying with your vision, dream, or goal? What weighed you down or kept you back? Well, I’ve found that there are about four things that commonly prevent us from doing the things we know we should and can do. They are:
- The negative influences of others.
- Lack of real, accurate knowledge of how to do it.
- Our own belief that we’re not ready, worthy or able to do it.
- The belief that God does not want it for us.
In this brief article, I’m only going to deal with issue #3.
Often we are our own worst enemy. Our own thoughts sabotage us and limit what we are truly capable of. The good news is that we can change our attitudes, thoughts and beliefs about ourself and possibilities, but it does take work. And it all starts with a strong desire or reason for wanting do, be and have more. You’ve probably thought to yourself at some point that you know deep down inside that you are capable of being a better person, giving more to others, earning a better income and living a more fulfilling life that you do now. Well, not until you really get fed up with where you are now will you do something about it.
So get fed up! Decide to drop those weights that are holding you back and keeping you down. To do this let’s understand how we got this way. We have at least two minds. A conscious and sub(un)conscious mind. The conscious mind is the command and control center. It takes in information, analyzes it, makes decisions and directs most of daily activities.
The subconscious mind is very much like a hard disk drive. It has data stored on it since the time of our birth, though much of it we don’t recall. This mind controls our automatic functions like walking, breathing and other daily functions that we do not think about consciously. It also stores all of your previous experiences, thoughts and attitudes and input from the outside world. This data helps form our beliefs about about who we are, what can do and who we can become. The wonderful news is that the data in this mind can be changed by us. That means, if there is something we don’t like about ourselves, like habits, attitudes, educational level, abilities, etc. we can change it.
For more than 20 years I was a severe stutterer. I could barely talk sometimes. It was embarrassing and made me feel inferior quite often. It was like walking around with a heavy weight on my shoulders 24/7. I was constantly in fear of when I would embarrass myself next. Then one day I did some soul searching and asked myself what I really wanted to do with the rest of my life. What did I feel called to do, to contribute to this world? The answer was, help others become all they are capable of becoming. Help then become more productive. About this time I stumbled upon the idea I just explained to you about the conscious and subconscious minds and it changed my life.
When I discovered that I could literally drop the belief that I was a stutterer and form a new belief that I was an excellent speaker, I was, to say the least, very excited
This could and would change my entire life and enable me to do what I was called to do. In addition to my technology business, I also teach and speak regularly and this is very fulfilling, since it takes advantage of my natural talents and abilities and helps fulfill my call.
So, here’s the powerful technique I used to change my life. Every day, at least 50 to 100 times per day, I said the following words to myself. . .
- “I am an excellent speaker.”
- “I like myself.”
- “I am a great speaker.”
That’s it. It took several months for these new beliefs to kick in, but eventually they did. Essentially what I did was rewrite the data on my hard disk drive, I reprogrammed my subconscious mind. Now it doesn’t matter if you believe in this or not, it is the way our mind works and therefore it is true whether we accept it or not.
While saying those powerful statements to myself, I also began to practice making presentations and later went out and offered my services for free to college students. This entire process of moving from being a stutterer to a public speaker took about a year. The process was very difficult, but well worth it.
So what do you feel called to do? And, what’s keeping you from doing it? What is your vision for your life? What goals would you like to accomplish over the next few years? What ever it is, identify what’s holding you down and just drop it so that you can move forward and into a life that makes the most of who you really are capable of being. Remember, whatever gifts you have are to be shared with others and the longer you don’t share them, more others are lacking and not becoming all that they can be.
Thanks for reading this and I hope these ideas are as helpful to you as they have been for me.